Archive | October, 2015

Emotional Nourishment

7 Oct

When I was a kid, I use to listen to my teacher’s diligently.  Not to try to learn whatever the lesson was for the day, but more so to catch some type of fabrication within the lesson.  So one day my science teacher told us that a human can’t go longer than three days without drinking water, seeing that an adult body can be composed of up to 60% water.  As soon as I heard her say that, I was off to prove her wrong.  There are certain thing’s in life that are essential to our very existence.   These “so called” elements are vital when it comes to us functioning properly. Not only are these certain things of importance to us, they help build confidence and contribute to our well being. With that being said, shouldn’t we provide those same essential values to one another emotionally?   Just as water, food and nutritional supplements keep us alive.  Our emotional: importance,  confidence and well being play vital roles when it comes to us falling in or out of love. 
  Your emotional importance not only makes you feel: safe, wanted, and welcomed, but it also allows you to open up more freely without extended hesitation.   It can also bring out the same type of comfort that a child experiences with his or her mother. Not only do you feel better in your relationship, it makes you wanna try harder to make it work and also assure yourself that your partner feels the same type of comfort with you.  But when we don’t feel important, all of those things go out the window.  We start to question why are we still here and what are we really gaining from this situation?  Just face it, when you don’t feel important with anything your interest is the first thing that retires and at a close second and third would be your time / effort. 
  There are ways to make one feel important in a relationship.  One way is to build and/or maintain our partners emotional confidence.  I know a lot of people will easily misconstrue emotional confidence with self confidence.  But the two are as far stretched out as earth is from the sun, seeing as your emotional confidence deals with your confidence inside your relationship.  A person can be comfortable all day with his or herself, but shy and closed off with someone else.  A few ways to alleviate this from happening is to know and understand their strengths and weaknesses, pay compliments and try to always have a positive outlook on situations no matter how glim they may seem. Understanding someone’s weaknesses is just as important as understanding their strengths because the weaknesses are gonna be the things that occur and they’re likely the things that catch the most flack.  These are the very events that can create or attribute to some sort of separation between you and your partner.  Regardless of if it’s mild or hot, the fact that the seed has been planted can make later seeds resemble a forestry of problems. Maybe if we complimented our partners more when it comes to their strengths, it would lessen the blame-like effect that resonates when an issue or issues seem one-sided during problems.  If I was comparing a positive outlook to anything that is essential to us, I would compare it to the faith we have in our relationship.   Negative seeds or energies help create selfish inhibitions which always tend to complicate matters.  Sometimes knowing that everything is going to be alright before it actually occurs is the only thing that helps you to make it through the storm.
  Whenever someone feels emotionally important and confident, it contributes to their emotional well being, which in turn assures a happy relationship. If two people are happy in a relationship, it tends to grow in a positive manner.  That very feeling originates whenever understanding,  communication, and expectations are met and understood. 
I will never forget going 4 day’s without drinking any water.  After the fourth day, I asked my dad “why am I still alive seeing as all I drank the last four day’s was kool-aid and soda?”  His response was ‘son both of them have water as a main ingredient.’

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