My Way or the Highway

11 Mar

I’ve always found it funny that a lot of people have a lack of understanding for the cliche, “there’s more than one way to skin a cat”.  Even though a lot of people have that misconception of the cliche and they expect things to go about in a tune of their own particular liking.  Usually people that wanna be tolerated or claim they’re different.  Those are the same people that’s unwilling to accept the same trait in others.  The maturation process should coerce us to become less selfish.  We should always look forward to the future with high expectations not hesitation.  Don’t get me wrong, I do realize that there are a few different reasons why we as a people do some of those things.  One main reasoning is pain.  To me, pain can be broken down into two different categories.  In which I view as clean pain and dirty pain.  Clean pain is a normal pain which comes with living an ordinary life (losing a love one, humiliation, depression, etc.).  Then there is a dirty pain.  I consider dirty pain to be an unnecessary pain (mostly pathological, damaging thoughts brought forward from past experiences, self inflicted, etc.).  We need to work on unraveling our emotions when it has our heart in a bind.  Especially when it comes to getting to know someone new.  There’s no point in wanting to get more than what you’re willing to give.  I’ve also heard of theories that there are different methods of love and I will say I agree to a certain extent.  But I will also like to add that I believe there is only one way to love and that’s with all of your heart.  In fact God commands us to Love.  Real Love should always constrain us.  No matter what our: moods, feelings or attitudes may be.  Love will always ground us and pull us back into fold.  We also need to learn how to convey our emotions in a way that’s not confusing or misinterpreted.  A lot of people have different ways and things that they respond to or they’re more susceptible to.  We need to realize that some people are or they respond better to: givers, receivers, talkative people, touchy feely people, comforters, etc.  We just have to be better prepared understanding wise towards our counterpart or potential counterpart. Just so we can understand their particular emotional revenues or outlets.  Don’t focus on not cheating, focus on loving me instead.  If someone is focusing on loving you, you’d  have no reason to urge them not to cheat.  At the end of the day, there are no rule books on how to love or receive love.  But there is a God that’s willing to guide us through loving: him, ourselves and everyone else. 


3 Responses to “My Way or the Highway”

  1. Kekaboo March 14, 2013 at 1:14 pm #

    Well said. It wasn’t till I read the book The Five Love Languages that I realized people do show love in different ways.

  2. Donnella March 24, 2013 at 4:27 am #

    I agree!! We have to communicate our feelings so that we are able to open up and receive love as well as get love.

  3. Mellenee October 24, 2013 at 2:20 am #

    Clean pain and dirty pain…never thought of it that way. You said there’s only way to love and that’s with all your heart. I don’t know any other way.

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